How to Find Lasting Love

We all want to find love, and a relationship that makes us feel happy and fulfilled for the rest of our lives. Here are some of the best tips for finding lasting love.

Look within your own friend group

Some of the best romantic relationships in the world evolve out of friendship. When you’re friends with someone, you know you already get along with them; you probably have similar senses of humor, and you may even have similar interests, and other important values in common. In many cases, relationships that can evolve from friendships are there the whole time: it just may take a while for you to see them.

If not within your own friend group – seek out friends of friends. Ask your close friends if they know of anyone who might be a good fit for you, and see if they’d be willing to make an introduction. You know a lot more people than you realize, and when you ask your network to consult their network, your opportunities to meet someone new grow exponentially.

Try online dating

Now more than ever, there are so many options for online dating, and meeting new people with the help of technology. There are so many apps that make “blind” dating fun, and easy! And it’s becoming more and more “the norm” that people meet either online, or through the help of an app. And these apps aren’t only creating relationships, they’re creating lasting marriages as well. In fact, there’s recent evidence that marriages that begin on dating apps are less likely to end in the first year, and that the rise of dating apps has correlated with a spike in interracial dating and marriages.

If you’re interested, but not sure how to get started with online dating – don’t worry. There are many different places you can turn, from classic sites like Match.com and eHarmony, to more niche sites like JDate for Jewish-identifying individuals. Just be sure to be safe and thorough with online dating. There’s slightly more risk involved in meeting up for a first date when you haven’t yet met the individual, so take steps to protect yourself and make sure they’re a good fit.

Step outside your comfort zone

As the saying goes, if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. A surefire way to meet new people, and potentially a new romantic interest, is by trying new things. Have you always wanted to pick up running? Join a running club! Have an interest in learning a new language? Take a class!

Trying new experiences will not only help you step outside your comfort zone, expose yourself to new experiences, and build your confidence, but it will also introduce you to some new people as well. New activities means a new group of people – and there’s definitely an opportunity for a romantic interest there as well! Plus, when you find someone through a new activity, it means it is a shared interest of yours, which already starts you off on the right foot in terms of finding lasting compatibility and love.

Take time to be by yourself

Instead of going looking for love, sometimes the best thing you can do is resolve to spend some time on your own. It’s easy to get caught up the madness of dating and trying to find someone to make you feel complete. But the reality is – if you don’t feel comfortable on your own, and if you’re not happy with your life, finding someone to be in a relationship with is not going to magically fix that. Take some time to be by yourself: to explore your own unique likes and dislikes, your passions, your values, and everything else that defines you as an individual.

Not only will this help you get more in touch with who you are, but it will set you up for even more success when you do start dating and going out with other people. You’ll be more confident and sure of who you are, and therefore better able to communicate these things to others.

Believe that you will find love

Finding love can be a self-fulfilling prophecy – if we do not feel that we are deserving of love, then we will never find it. Be open to love, and believe, truly, that you will find it. There is someone out there who you are meant to be with!

There are so many ways to put yourself out there in the name of love – really almost countless places to search. But the most important thing, above anything else, is to love yourself, and also believe fiercely that you deserve love and will find it. Make this an affirmation in your daily life, and lasting love will find its way to you – it may just take some time. Be patient and know that good things are coming.

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