Once you’ve started a family, it can be hard to keep the same kind of connection you had with your partner when it was just the two of you. It also can seem like taking an “adult” vacation might be selfish. But there are actually many good reasons why you should consider doing so. After all, maintaining a strong relationship with your spouse is important, and vacations can help bolster that. Here are some of the benefits of taking some time off together, just the two of you, to vacation.
Adult Time Together
Your children are your number one priority. That’s a given, and it’s exactly the way it should be. But in order to be the best possible parents, you have to be your best possible selves. And that means you need, and deserve, some time to simply be together as adults. Your children inevitably affect the dynamic between you and your partner, and sometimes together apart from that influence can help you get back in touch with your adult emotions for one another. Also, it’s hard to pay 100% attention to your spouse (or them to you) when you’re both paying attention to the kids. It’s healthy to have some time to give your partner your undivided attention and to have them give you their undivided attention.
Rediscover Your Spouse
During your hectic day to day life, things happen that change you, alter your view, and affect you emotionally. And yet, during that hectic day to day life, there just aren’t enough hours in a day to share those things with your spouse. Instead, you cling to the routine just to make it through. Vacation is a break in that routine that gives you a chance to unpack all of the things that have been on your mind. You’ll be relieved to share your new self with your spouse, and delighted to learn new things about them.
Rediscover Intimacy
Vacation offers a unique opportunity for privacy as a couple. Whether you’re looking for a swanky hotel, a bed, and breakfast, or one of Punta Mita Enjoy Mexico villas to rent, you’ll have some time apart from all of the usual distractions. No kids, no unexpected work calls, no drop in guests. Just the two of you, on your own schedule, enjoying one another.
Going on Adventures Together
One part of vacation is luxury—sleeping in, having a delicious brunch, lazy walks on the beach. The other part is having new experiences. Whether it’s as simple as trying a new type of food together, or as ambitious as learning to scuba dive, going on adventures is important as a couple. You get to see one another and support one another, in new situations. It offers opportunities to learn together, to laugh together, and to grow together.
Investing in a Vacation Together is Investing in Your Future
The greatest danger to a relationship isn’t infidelity or boredom. It’s complacency. It’s growing apart from one another because you aren’t making the effort to connect. When you make the effort to have new experiences together, you commit to growing together.
